Dealing with a neuro diverse child
Tips on how to help parents deal with children with neurodiverse children:
- Educate yourself about neurodiversity. The more you know about neurodiversity, the better equipped you will be to help your child. There are many resources available to help you learn about neurodiversity, including books, websites, and support groups.
- Find a support system. Talking to other parents of neurodiverse children can be very helpful. They can offer you support, advice, and understanding. There are many support groups available, both online and in person.
- Don't be afraid to ask for help. There are many professionals who can help you and your child, including doctors, therapists, and teachers. Don't be afraid to ask for help when you need it.
- Take care of yourself. It's important to take care of yourself, both physically and emotionally. This means getting enough sleep, eating healthy foods, and exercising regularly. It also means taking some time for yourself each day to relax and de-stress.
- Celebrate your child's accomplishments. No matter how small, it's important to celebrate your child's accomplishments. This will help them to feel good about themselves and to keep working hard.
- Be patient and understanding. Raising a child with neurodiversity can be challenging, but it's important to be patient and understanding. Your child may need more time to learn and to do things than other children.
Here are some additional tips that may be helpful:
- Set realistic expectations. It's important to set realistic expectations for your child. Don't expect them to do everything that other children can do. Instead, focus on their individual strengths and abilities.
- Be flexible. Things don't always go according to plan when you're raising a child with neurodiversity. Be flexible and be prepared to change your plans as needed.
- Don't compare your child to other children. Every child is different, and your child's progress will be different from other children. Don't compare your child to others, as this will only lead to disappointment.
- Enjoy the journey. Raising a child with neurodiversity can be challenging, but it can also be incredibly rewarding. Enjoy the journey and celebrate your child's unique gifts and talents.
We hope these tips help you to help your child with neurodiversity. Remember, you are not alone, and there are many resources available to help you.

Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder, or                                              OCD                                  , is a mental health condition that is often misunderstood. It's more than just being "a little neat" or "a bit of a clean freak." For those who live with it, OCD is a debilitating cycle of unwanted thoughts and repetitive behaviours that can seriously disrupt daily life.                                                      Understanding this cycle is the first step toward reclaiming control.                                                                              What Exactly is OCD?                                                                   OCD is defined by a pattern that has two main parts:                                              obsessions                                               and                                              compulsions                                  .                                                                              1. Obsessions                                                                   These are                                              unwanted, intrusive, and distressing thoughts, images, or urges                                               that repeatedly enter your mind. They cause intense anxiety, fear, or disgust.                                                                  Common obsessions include:                                                                   Contamination fears                                                   (e.g., fear of germs, dirt, or illness).                                                                        Harm obsessions                                                   (e.g., fear of accidentally or deliberately hurting yourself or others).                                                                        A need for symmetry, order, or "just-right" feelings.                                                           Unwanted aggressive, sexual, or religious thoughts                                                   (sometimes called scrupulosity).                                                                                                                        It is crucial to remember that these thoughts are                                              ego-dystonic                                  —they go against the person's true values, character, and intentions. They are thoughts, not facts.                                                                              2. Compulsions                                                                   These are                                              repetitive behaviours or mental acts                                               that a person feels driven to perform in response to the obsession. The goal of a compulsion is to temporarily reduce the anxiety caused by the obsession or to prevent a feared event from happening.                                                                  Common compulsions include:                                                                   Excessive cleaning and hand-washing.                                                           Repeatedly checking                                                   locks, appliances, or safety measures.                                                                        Ordering and arranging                                                   objects in a precise way.                                                                        Mental rituals                                                   like counting, repeating phrases, or 'neutralizing' a bad thought.                                                                        Excessively seeking reassurance                                                   from others.                                                                                                                        The cycle looks like this:                                              Obsession → Anxiety → Compulsion → Temporary Relief → Obsession Returns.                                               The compulsion only reinforces the idea that the obsession was a real threat that needed to be addressed.                                                                                            What Helps with OCD Management?                                                      If you are struggling with OCD, help is available. While it can feel overwhelming, evidence-based treatments and self-help strategies can significantly improve your quality of life.                                                                                     The Gold Standard Treatment                                                                   The most effective, evidence-based treatment for OCD is a form of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) called                                              Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP)                                  .                                                                                                  Exposure (E):                                                   This involves                                                  gradually and repeatedly confronting                                                   the thoughts, images, objects, or situations that cause your obsessions and anxiety.                                                                        Response Prevention (RP):                                                   This means                                                  choosing to resist the urge to perform the compulsion                                                   or ritual that usually follows the exposure.                                                                                                           For example, a person with contamination fears might be asked to lightly touch a doorknob (exposure) and then be guided by the therapist to not wash their hands for a set amount of time (response prevention). Over time and with practice, the anxiety naturally decreases, and the brain learns that the feared consequence does not occur, thus breaking the cycle. This should always be done with a therapist trained in ERP.                                                                                                  In some cases,                                              Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors (SSRIs)                                  , a type of antidepressant medication, may be prescribed by a doctor to help reduce anxiety and allow the person to engage more effectively in therapy. Often, a combination of ERP and medication is the most effective approach.                                                                                     Practical Self-Help Strategies                                                      While professional treatment is essential, there are daily self-help strategies that can support your recovery:                                                                                     1. Accept the Thoughts, Resist the Response                                                                   Practice 'Un-Fusing' from Thoughts:                                                   Recognise an obsessive thought as simply a thought, not a command or a reflection of reality. You can say to yourself, "That's just my OCD thought about germs," instead of engaging with the thought's content.                                                                        Embrace Uncertainty:                                                   OCD thrives on the need for 100% certainty. You can counter this by intentionally introducing and accepting small amounts of doubt. Use phrases like, "Maybe that's true, maybe it isn't. I'm going to choose to move on anyway."                                                                        Delay the Compulsion:                                                   If resisting a compulsion entirely feels impossible, try delaying it. Say, "I will do this in 5 minutes," and gradually increase the delay time.                                                                               2. Build Healthy Habits                                                                   Mindfulness:                                                   Practising mindfulness helps you focus on the present moment without judgement. This can reduce the tendency to get carried away by anxious thoughts about the past or future.                                                                        Sleep and Nutrition:                                                   Ensure you are getting adequate sleep and a balanced diet. Fatigue and low blood sugar can exacerbate stress and anxiety, making OCD symptoms feel worse.                                                                        Movement:                                                   Regular physical activity is a powerful stress reducer and can help regulate mood and anxiety levels.                                                                               3. Cultivate Support                                                                   Connect with Trusted People:                                                   OCD is isolating. Talk about your struggles with a trusted friend, family member, or join an                                                  OCD support group                                     . Sharing your experience can reduce feelings of shame and isolation.                                                           Avoid Excessive Reassurance Seeking:                                                   While reassurance provides temporary relief, it is a form of compulsion and strengthens the OCD cycle. Gently ask loved ones to stop giving reassurance and instead offer distraction or emotional support.                                                                                                                        If you believe you or a loved one may be affected by OCD, the most important step is to                                              speak with a healthcare professional                                               or a specialist who can provide a diagnosis and guide you to a qualified ERP therapist. You don't have to face this alone.
 

Understanding Your Diagnosis                                                      Receiving an ADHD diagnosis as an adult can be a mix of relief and uncertainty. It might finally explain the challenges you've faced, but it also raises new questions. Here’s how to cope with this significant life event:                                                                                     1. Educate Yourself                                                                   Research ADHD: Learn about the symptoms, causes, and treatment options. This knowledge can empower you to manage your condition effectively.                                                           Join Support Groups: Connect with others who understand what you're going through. Sharing experiences can be incredibly helpful.                                                                  2. Accept and Embrace Your Diagnosis                                                                   Avoid Self-Blame: ADHD is a neurodevelopmental disorder, not a personal failing.                                                           Celebrate Your Strengths: Focus on your unique talents and abilities, which can often be enhanced with the right strategies.                                                                  3. Develop Coping Mechanisms                                                                   Mindfulness and Meditation: These practices can help manage stress and improve focus.                                                           Exercise: Regular physical activity can boost mood, energy, and cognitive function.                                                           Healthy Lifestyle: Prioritize a balanced diet, sufficient sleep, and stress management techniques.                                                                  4. Build a Support Network                                                                   Lean on Loved Ones: Share your feelings with trusted friends and family.                                                           Seek Professional Help: A therapist can provide guidance, coping strategies, and support.                                                                  5. Explore Treatment Options                                                                   Medication: Discuss medication options with your doctor. It can be a valuable tool for managing symptoms.                                                           Therapy: Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) can help develop effective coping skills and strategies.                                                           Lifestyle Adjustments: Explore accommodations and strategies to help you succeed at work, school, and home.                                                                  6. Give Yourself Time                                                                   Be Patient: Adjusting to a new diagnosis takes time. Be kind to yourself as you learn to navigate your experiences.                                                           Celebrate Progress: Acknowledge your achievements, no matter how small.                                                                                            Remember, you're not alone. Many adults with ADHD lead fulfilling lives. With the right support and strategies, you can thrive and overcome challenges.                                                                                           Why not                                              schedule a consultation                                                                                with JHD Counselling to see how we may be able to steer you in the right direction
 

National Coming Out Day is a time for LGBTQ+ individuals to celebrate their identities and live authentically. However, coming out can also be a challenging experience, especially when faced with negative reactions from family and friends.                                                                                     If you're experiencing fallout from coming out, know that you're not alone. Many LGBTQ+ individuals face similar challenges. Here are some tips to help you cope:                                                                                     1. Prioritise Your Mental Health                                                      Seek support: Reach out to friends, family members, or a therapist who is supportive of your identity.                                                      Practice self-care: Engage in activities that help you relax and de-stress, such as meditation, exercise, or spending time in nature.                                                      Join a support group: Connecting with others who have gone through similar experiences can provide valuable support and understanding.                                                      2. Set Boundaries                                                      Communicate your needs: Clearly express your boundaries to those who are struggling to accept your identity.                                                      Limit contact: If necessary, limit your contact with individuals who are causing you significant distress.                                                      3. Build a Support Network                                                      Connect with the LGBTQ+ community: Join local LGBTQ+ organizations or online communities to find support and a sense of belonging.                                                      Reach out to friends and family who are supportive: Spend time with people who accept and love you for who you are.                                                      4. Focus on Your Well-being                                                      Remember your worth: Your identity is valid and valuable, regardless of others' opinions.                                                      Celebrate your journey: Acknowledge the courage it takes to come out and celebrate your progress.                                                                                     At JHD/CHD, our founder, Carol, is a proud member of the LGBTQ+ community. We understand firsthand the challenges that can arise when coming out. Our team of experienced counselors is dedicated to providing compassionate and supportive care to individuals who are navigating their identities.                                                                                     If you're struggling to cope with fallout from coming out, please don't hesitate to reach out to us. We're here to help you through this potentially difficult time.
 
